Relationships

Changing long-standing relationship patterns can be hard. Expectations and the way we respond to disappointment can result in unproductive patterns of interaction when we keep doing the same things over and over again, hoping for different results. Problematic patterns can include avoidance, unresolved conflict, people-pleasing, and placating the other person just to get along. While these patterns serve a purpose (typically distancing or avoiding hard conversations), they can also lead to roadblocks in relationship growth. Often, what we’re really looking for is to know that we or our relationship is important to the other person, or emotional space to be who we are. Learning about these patterns and how they can be overcome can change our relationships if we’re willing to do the work. Our specialty is helping you recognize your part in maintaining ineffective patterns in your relationships and helping you use your new understanding to turn unsolved problems into opportunities for change.