As human beings, we yearn for both closeness with others and time to ourselves in order to develop who we are as individuals. This lifelong paradox, the desire for individuality and that for togetherness, is something we all experience from time to time. In relationships, difficulties can emerge when we and significant others are seeking individuality or togetherness at opposite times. Shifts such as these are normal and natural and occur in all relationships.
Family of origin coaching can help us learn how to deal with these shifts. As we learn to take responsibility for our own thoughts, feelings, and actions, we can begin to accept differences between ourselves and other people. This acceptance can allow us to maintain both a “self” and closeness with the “other” simultaneously within the context of the relationship.
Family of origin work supports the development of self-differentiation. Taking time to look at beliefs, values, and interaction patterns that have been passed down through the generations in our families can lead to new insights, acceptance, and understanding of how we have become who we are.
Contact us online or call Robin Shultz at New Legends (630.828.6305) to learn more about Family of Origin Coaching and how you might benefit from learning more about it.